For the curious
My Reflections
Essays · Audio · Video
Essays on rope, BDSM and contemporary kink - sharing practical insight, inspiration and reflections from my work
12 pieces
Featured. Long read
Exploring rope bondage: A beginner's guide to shibari...
All the curiosity arises when people first see shibari.... Does it hurt? Is it normal to be in to this? Is it different to normal bondage leather and cuffs? How do I learn and where do I even start? What is it all about?
Read the essay →13 Dec 202410 min read
Guest Essay
Chastity as Bondage: The Psychology of Wearing Your Restraint 24/7
Sharing this piece that will certainly be of interest many of you visiting this site - and if not, then I hope you enjoy, spark interest in another aspect of kink, and learn something new! Shoanne Miller writes about kink, power dynamics, and the psychology of BDSM for Lockd, a chastity lifestyle brand.
15 Jun 20266 min read
Essay
Mixed Materials: Combining Rope Bondage with Leather, Latex, Chains, Cuffs and Pallet Wrap
Can you combine rope with leather, latex, and pallet wrap?
18 Sept 20253 min read
Podcast · Video
Deviants Podcast: Why Would Anyone Want to Be Tied Up?
Most people hear the words rope bondage and picture something extreme, painful, or intimidating. Sophia Rose has spent over a decade proving that assumption wrong.
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Essay
No Partner? No Problem: A Beginner's Guide to Self-Tying for the Bondage Curious
Curious about rope play but unpartnered? Self-tying and solo bondage for beginners - sensual, empowering, self-led kink for your own pleasure and embodiment.
4 Jul 20257 min read
Essay
How do I find my authentic dominant style?
Exploring expressions of Femdom and building confidence in your own unique erotic power.
10 Apr 20255 min read
Interview
My Interview With The OH Collective: How BDSM and Shibari Exploration Can Help You Connect With Your Partner on a Deeper Level
A conversation with the Oh Collective on rope, desire, and what deeper connection actually asks of a couple.
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Essay
How do I introduce kink to a partner? (especially for those shy, ashamed or nervous!)
There can be layers of shame, a lack of language, or plain uncertainty about where to begin. Some ways in.
3 Apr 20258 min read
Guide
Visiting a professional dominatrix in London? A "how to" guide for subs seeking a session!
What to expect when first contacting or planning to visit a professional Dominatrix in London - written with the help of a client of seven years.
15 Oct 20246 min read
Podcast · Spotify
Opening To Pleasure — Queering Kink and Female Pleasure: A Conversation with Dunya Rising
Exploring female pleasure, power, and desire through a trauma-informed lens - debunking sex myths and queering kink on your own terms.
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Essay
So what happens now.... is rope bondage about sex?
I'm often asked, “So what happens after you're tied up? Do you have sex once someone is suspended? What comes next?”
10 Oct 20244 min read
Essay
Shibari as therapy? My honest thoughts
Shibari is a kink deeply rooted in BDSM culture, and understanding that context matters for anyone drawn to rope for what it might heal.
9 Oct 20244 min read